Comments on: 5 Ways to Ease the Stress of Caring for an Aging Parent http://heartmathstressrelief.com/472/5-ways-to-ease-the-stress-of-caring-for-an-aging-parent/ Wed, 01 Sep 2010 08:04:59 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: saleenmb http://heartmathstressrelief.com/472/5-ways-to-ease-the-stress-of-caring-for-an-aging-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-1899 saleenmb Wed, 10 Mar 2010 13:47:59 +0000 http://heartmathstressrelief.com/472/5-ways-to-ease-the-stress-of-caring-for-an-aging-parent/#comment-1899 Your girlfriend is a very independent person. However this does not give her the excuse of being childish. She needs to understand that this baby cannot be an object of affection for her to get more attention. When the baby arrives all focus needs to be on that child. Though you have strong family values you have to give a little in order for this to work out as does your family. Your family needs to understand you love this girl and you are about to have a child and they need to understand that it will take time for your girlfriend to adjust to a loving home. Your girlfriend also needs to make some changes the temper tantrums have to stop and she needs to learn to share you with your family. She is clinging to you because she has never had someone focused on her before and it is going to take time for her to realize you can be there for both sides. I think living with your family will put to much strain on your relationship being the stress that is already there and I think it will only complicate things more. I do think that you should make it a point with your girlfriend to spend more time with the family together so they can work out there differences. You need to talk to your girl and try to explain the situation that you love her but you love your family too and she needs to calm down. I think her emotions are out of wack being with child makes this worse with hormones, but in all boils down too I think she maybe feeling a little insecure and afraid of losing you and just needs to know she is as equally important to you.<br><b>References : </b><br>Use to be that kind of girl Your girlfriend is a very independent person. However this does not give her the excuse of being childish. She needs to understand that this baby cannot be an object of affection for her to get more attention. When the baby arrives all focus needs to be on that child. Though you have strong family values you have to give a little in order for this to work out as does your family. Your family needs to understand you love this girl and you are about to have a child and they need to understand that it will take time for your girlfriend to adjust to a loving home. Your girlfriend also needs to make some changes the temper tantrums have to stop and she needs to learn to share you with your family. She is clinging to you because she has never had someone focused on her before and it is going to take time for her to realize you can be there for both sides. I think living with your family will put to much strain on your relationship being the stress that is already there and I think it will only complicate things more. I do think that you should make it a point with your girlfriend to spend more time with the family together so they can work out there differences. You need to talk to your girl and try to explain the situation that you love her but you love your family too and she needs to calm down. I think her emotions are out of wack being with child makes this worse with hormones, but in all boils down too I think she maybe feeling a little insecure and afraid of losing you and just needs to know she is as equally important to you.
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]]> By: MM http://heartmathstressrelief.com/472/5-ways-to-ease-the-stress-of-caring-for-an-aging-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-1898 MM Wed, 10 Mar 2010 13:45:59 +0000 http://heartmathstressrelief.com/472/5-ways-to-ease-the-stress-of-caring-for-an-aging-parent/#comment-1898 I'll be frank: I don't see your proposed living arrangement working out well for anyone involved, including you. Your girlfriend and your family do need to come to some kind of understanding and accord with each other for your sake, but you can do that more effectively if both sides have breathing room and safe spaces they can retreat to when it's necessary. Living together won't allow for that. If anything, it'll make the tension worse, and you'll have nowhere to go when they start warring with each other over your girlfriend's parenting techniques or your mother's cleaning habits or any of the other innumerable issues that come up in a shared household even if the two parties aren't looking for excuses to pick a fight with each other.<br><b>References : </b><br> I’ll be frank: I don’t see your proposed living arrangement working out well for anyone involved, including you. Your girlfriend and your family do need to come to some kind of understanding and accord with each other for your sake, but you can do that more effectively if both sides have breathing room and safe spaces they can retreat to when it’s necessary. Living together won’t allow for that. If anything, it’ll make the tension worse, and you’ll have nowhere to go when they start warring with each other over your girlfriend’s parenting techniques or your mother’s cleaning habits or any of the other innumerable issues that come up in a shared household even if the two parties aren’t looking for excuses to pick a fight with each other.
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]]> By: needhelpnow! http://heartmathstressrelief.com/472/5-ways-to-ease-the-stress-of-caring-for-an-aging-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-1897 needhelpnow! Wed, 10 Mar 2010 08:43:35 +0000 http://heartmathstressrelief.com/472/5-ways-to-ease-the-stress-of-caring-for-an-aging-parent/#comment-1897 <b>Girlfriend and family problems. What should I do?</b><br>my gf and i are in our mid/late 20's and she is pregnant. it was unplanned and my parents never met her before i broke the news to them, so imagine their reaction. even to this day, they've only met her once. i was raised with strong family values. i have a strong bond with my parents and siblings and vice-versa where we should help each other and look out for one another whether it's financial, emotional, etc. my gf on the other hand, was an only child, had a very rough childhood, parents who didn't show enough support/love, and has very different concept of what a family should be. she wants to start a family (as do i), but she wants all my attention and focus on her and the baby. but i try to explain that family means so much more than that. she's used to being by herself and not relying on family, but i've had that type of support all my life. her concept and values of family is obviously different from mine, which has caused countless arguments and stress. my parents don't see any good qualities about her and view the fact she moved out of her parents place at a young age makes them think that she wasn't raised right, her parents don't love/care enough about her to help her out, and don't hold the same values as we do. since she was on her own, she's been doing whatever she wanted whenever without anybody telling her otherwise for nearly a decade. as a result of this, she gets upset/angry when things are out her control or if things don't go her way and has problems controlling her temper, flipping out, even in public. my parents see her as a selfish person only looking out for her own interests which will cause me to be miserable because of her temper tantrums i'll have to do whatever she tells me to do and if ever a time comes where my family needs my support, she either won't allow it or will give me hell about it. i can already see this kinda happening because i've financially helped my siblings a couple times with things such as gas or food and she wasn't happy about it. in order to ease my parents fears and help my gf, i felt that maybe if she moved into my parents place with me it would hopefully accomplish the following: - gf would have a better understanding of the family concept - create some kind of relationship w/ family members - save money to move out later and buy a home - having to find a babysitter would not be a problem gf is afraid i won't put enough attention on her and the baby since we'll be living with my parents and be preoccupied with them as well. my question is is this a good idea? does living with parents affect the relationship? are there other advantages/disadvantages? is this idea going to just worsen the situation where my parents and her won't get along? is her train of thought selfish? am i being selfish? my relationship w/ parents and gf has become very strained. i've been stuck in the middle for quite some time and i'm emotionally and physically drained. i really don't know what to do at this point. Girlfriend and family problems. What should I do?
my gf and i are in our mid/late 20’s and she is pregnant. it was unplanned and my parents never met her before i broke the news to them, so imagine their reaction. even to this day, they’ve only met her once.

i was raised with strong family values. i have a strong bond with my parents and siblings and vice-versa where we should help each other and look out for one another whether it’s financial, emotional, etc. my gf on the other hand, was an only child, had a very rough childhood, parents who didn’t show enough support/love, and has very different concept of what a family should be. she wants to start a family (as do i), but she wants all my attention and focus on her and the baby. but i try to explain that family means so much more than that. she’s used to being by herself and not relying on family, but i’ve had that type of support all my life. her concept and values of family is obviously different from mine, which has caused countless arguments and stress.

my parents don’t see any good qualities about her and view the fact she moved out of her parents place at a young age makes them think that she wasn’t raised right, her parents don’t love/care enough about her to help her out, and don’t hold the same values as we do. since she was on her own, she’s been doing whatever she wanted whenever without anybody telling her otherwise for nearly a decade. as a result of this, she gets upset/angry when things are out her control or if things don’t go her way and has problems controlling her temper, flipping out, even in public. my parents see her as a selfish person only looking out for her own interests which will cause me to be miserable because of her temper tantrums i’ll have to do whatever she tells me to do and if ever a time comes where my family needs my support, she either won’t allow it or will give me hell about it. i can already see this kinda happening because i’ve financially helped my siblings a couple times with things such as gas or food and she wasn’t happy about it.

in order to ease my parents fears and help my gf, i felt that maybe if she moved into my parents place with me it would hopefully accomplish the following:

- gf would have a better understanding of the family concept
- create some kind of relationship w/ family members
- save money to move out later and buy a home
- having to find a babysitter would not be a problem

gf is afraid i won’t put enough attention on her and the baby since we’ll be living with my parents and be preoccupied with them as well.

my question is is this a good idea? does living with parents affect the relationship? are there other advantages/disadvantages? is this idea going to just worsen the situation where my parents and her won’t get along? is her train of thought selfish? am i being selfish?

my relationship w/ parents and gf has become very strained. i’ve been stuck in the middle for quite some time and i’m emotionally and physically drained. i really don’t know what to do at this point.

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